Not many relationships last happily forever, to maintain a healthy relationship means to work on it and answer important questions that may surface such as:
Do both partners have the same intentions?
Do both partners have the same objectives and life expectations?
Is there enough energy left to fix a broken relationship?
Is there enough time and will to do so?
Are there any traumas or bad experiences not directly related to the couple itself that could be influencing the current relationship?
Is there enough communication and most importantly is it positive or is constant nervous tension and arguing the core of the relationship?
Despite terrible betrayals and painful occurrences, disappointments or other negative revelations there is a chance for some couples to reunite and start over from a more fruitful perspective.
To help these couples usually one of the most frequent methods is couple therapy, while in therapy the specialist who usually is a psychologist or a psychiatrist can evaluate a couple based on following criteria:
Is one partner listening to the other?
During therapy one of the first things to consider is if the partners are both able to listen to each other and to communicate properly without resentment or negative behavior and without any strings attached. Even when there is disagreement both partners will listen and respectfully disagree without interrupting, over-talking, minimizing or even completely dismissing the other. When these small “rules” of natural positive behavior are not respected there is one indicator of what could be lacking and that is as we figured out, correct and respectful communication which is not ego based or tries to see the other side too.
Is there concern about each others feelings?
Even when couples are in a bad place concern should still take place, this also means that there should be empathy present between two lovers and respect. When someone is being vulnerable with their feelings but receives a negative or neutral reaction it can have bad effects on the relationship in general as one of the partners or even both feel that they are not cherished and cared for.
Is there still humor in the relationship?
While sometimes a couple can be in a very bad place it does not always mean that humor needs to disappear and completely vanish from a relationship, if that is the case the couple could be stopped from moving on and evolving as laughter is also an important factor of a healthy relationship. Sharing experiences of the past that were created together and remembering them in laughter is very important for a relationship to prosper and come back to a healthy balance.
De-escalating a situation and controlling emotions to prevent harm
Is one of the sides avoiding a possible “emotional volcano eruption” and trying to prove a point but not with excessive provocation? The de-escalation factor occurs when one of the partners notices where he has or should stop, and knows that if he goes any further the partner will be broken to the point where healing is either no longer possible or very hard so de-escalation takes the couple to a caring, safe place where they can still talk to each other and share their feelings but this in a proper respectful way without going over the edge.
These among other factors can be decisive when it comes to fixing a broken couple, in general therapy will suffice but for very hard cases there is a technique that involves the spiritual world and parapsychology called “Partnerrückführung” (roughly translated from the German language into bringing the partner back) that in a successful case is also called “Partnerrückführung erfolgreich”, as there is not a specific word that can describe this in English the most similar designation would be something along the lines of spiritual love counselling.